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Mary Tonnison's avatar

I think it’s good to open the discussion, I have always been in the ‘definitely not’ camp and knew from as early as 15 that it was not for me. I’m sure when you are on the fence it must feel so conflicting at times. I think it has to feel right and who knows maybe on 5 or even 10 years you might feel some clarity strongly either way but you just have to be sure it’s right for you.

I won’t lie, as a woman of 44 it can feel slightly isolating at times as I am only 1 of 2 in my friendship group that has chosen this path, but you’ve just got to find your people. My friends with kids are envious of mine and my husband’s lifestyle, the one thing I hold so dear is freedom! I could never imagine having to compromise this. I hope you manage to figure this out and find peace in whatever your decision is. ❤️

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Samantha Murray's avatar

HI Jess,

There is never a wrong answer about having or not having children. I'm really glad I had mine at the ages I did (26, 28 & 30) and looking back I wouldn't change the timing, but I also see my boys who are now in there mid to late twenties (my daughter who has just turned 30 already has a 5 year old) and think they have so much to do before they should start a family as it really is easier to do 'stuff' without babies (or dogs) but on the flip side its also great to make memories with them...you will figure it out and it will be right..for you and for Ollie xx

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